For the truly romantic person, figuring out how to say “I love you” in fresh and unique ways is never a problem; there are a million different ways to show your lover how you feel about them, and every day offers new opportunities to inject romance into your life. But exactly when to say I love you, and deciding which moment is the best to express your feelings to your lover, can be a bit more difficult to decide on. Is there really a perfect time to say “I love you,” and if so, when is it?
If there is such a thing as the perfect time of day to let your lover know how you feel, it’s probably different for every romantic relationship. Romance is a very personal experience, and each loving relationship is as unique as an individual set of fingerprints or a single snowflake. The exact experiences, memories, feelings and circumstances present in your relationship can’t be found in any other. So while saying “I love you” as you come home from work might be best in one relationship, saying it as you lay down to bed might be best in another.
But regardless of when you feel the most comfortable saying “I love you,” you should never, ever stop saying it at other times. Love is a renewable resource, and you’ll never run out of “I love you’s” if you say them too much. Who cares if you already told your sweetheart you loved them that morning? That shouldn’t stop you from telling them again that afternoon and that evening.
Don’t limit yourself to expressing your loving feelings only a certain amount of times during a day; instead, tell your lover how you feel whenever the fancy strikes you. Sure, if you started saying “I love you” three thousand times a day, that might cause a strain on even the strongest relationship. But if you have a healthy, open relationship, expressing your love three times or even ten times a day should only strengthen it.
Here’s one bit of advice to add some variety to your relationship, though: try saying “I love you” at times when it’s unexpected, rather than when you’ve always said it in the past. If your partner is only used to hearing you express your love when you leave for work in the morning, call to tell them again when you get to work. If they’re used to hearing “I love you” as you lay down for bed at night, tell them how you feel as soon as you open your eyes in the morning.
Is there a perfect time to say “I love you?” The answer is yes, but the only person who can decide when that is for your relationship is you. But by promising yourself not to limit yourself in how often you express your feelings, and by doing it at unexpected moments, you can that each “I love you” will be as close to perfect as possible!