The most well known Bible verses on love are found in 1 Corinthians 13. Taking five principles of this famous passage in no particular order, let’s consider how to incorporate them into practical Christian dating advice.

Love is patient

No-one is perfect. We all test each other’s patience from time to time, often unintentionally.  Next time you feel yourself at the end of your tether with your boyfriend or girlfriend put yourself in their shoes. Is their irritability due to a long stressful day? What else may be affecting their mood? Count to ten and ask God to help you.

Love is kind

All relationships thrive on trivial kindnesses. A bunch of flowers (handpicked is really romantic); cooking your spouse their favorite meal as a surprise or doing some of the household chores they loathe, for example. Kindness keeps that spark aflame. A little kindness goes a long way.

Love always trusts 

Trust is not always easy to achieve, especially when we have been hurt in the past, either in this relationship or another. The Apostle Paul also reminds us that love perseveres. This is an essential component of Christian dating advice. How better to gain trust than to persevere? Who better to trust than God?  If your relationship is fraught with tensions right now, place it into His care and trust Him with it.

Love does not envy

Perhaps your husband or wife’s career is in the ascendant. Perhaps you sense a nudge from the green-eyed monster of jealousy as their successes surpass yours. If you love someone rejoice with them in their achievements. God will bless you too in His time. As Paul subsequently reminds us, love is not self-seeking.

Love keeps no records of wrongs.

This is possibly the most important piece of Christian dating advice. It all comes back to Jesus urging us to forgive those who have wronged us so we too can receive forgiveness. (Mark 11:24-25). The next time you fight (and we are humans, it is inevitable) don’t resurrect all of the offenses you feel your partner has committed in the last month. After all, how would you feel if a list of your ‘wrongs’ was presented to you? If you want God to forgive you, you must first forgive others. It’s a liberating experience and breathes life into the most jaded relationships.

Read through 1 Corinthians 13 regularly. Nurture your relationship by applying these teachings to it and marvel at how it begins to flourish. Come back to the same passage when you are in need of Christian dating advice again. It’s all about love. After all, love never fails.

Approval addiction is a bad habit that we gain from childhood. As kids, we learn we will fare much less punishment if we do what other people tell us to. This is good, because it teaches us the rules of society. However, it is also bad, because it not only damages your potential to find a partner, it inhibits you from getting what you really want out of your relationships.

How Addicted Are You?

Most people don’t realize how much their life is being controlled by the expectations of others. To understand how seriously your dating life is being affected by this addiction, answer the following 10 questions as honestly as you can:

1. Have you ever wanted to ask a guy or girl out, but failed to, because you were afraid they’d say no?

2. Do you occasionally lie on first dates, in order to make yourself appear more impressive?

3. Have you ever been on a date with someone you didn’t like, because you didn’t want to say no, and hurt their feelings?

4. Do you alter your personality on a first date to make yourself more likeable?

5. Have you ever done something uncharacteristic of yourself to impress a date?

6. Do you avoid certain topics on a date, because you don’t want to face the discomfort of disagreeing with the other person’s position?

7. Have you ever apologized to a date for not agreeing with him or her?

8. Do you feel the need to please your boyfriend or girlfriend more than yourself?

9. Have you hesitated to tell a guy or girl what you really wanted out of a relationship, because you were afraid of scaring them away (what they might think)?

10. Do you ask friends or family to give you their opinion on a guy/girl, and use this information to decide whether or not you are going to continue dating them?

If you said yes to three or more of these, you may be relying on other people’s approval to a greater extent than you should. The deciding factor is just how addicted you are. If you are seeking approval because you are trying to respect your lover’s needs, that is considered to be healthier than if you require their blessing in order to feel worthy of their love and attention.

It is said that we need to have a little of the desire for other people’s approval, otherwise, we would become too consumed with our own needs (self-centered). It is good to care about what other people think. However, you can’t allow that to get in the way of taking the necessary risks to find love, demand respect, and ask for what you want. You have to risk losing approval, in order to escape a life of boredom, minimal achievement, and relationship mediocrity.

Freeing Yourself

Finding middle ground with this addiction, starts by deciding what parts of your regiment need the most work. You need to consider which addictions are costing you dearly. For instance, if you fear rejection to the point of being afraid to ask anyone out for a date, this could be inhibiting you from attaining any relationship. On the other hand, if you find yourself in the relationships you want, but feel like you have to give to the point that you end up sabotaging your own happiness, it’s time you put your needs in the forefront for a change.

There are six important rules to keep this addiction in check:

- Be yourself. Be the person who makes you happy. A true soulmate will find their happiness in what makes you happy.

- You can’t please everybody. It is important to focus on the needs of your loved ones, because they are the most important, but consider where you fit into all of this as well in order to maintain a healthier, sustainable relationship.

- Just say no. Don’t go on a date with someone, because you’re afraid to say no, and hurt their feelings. On the other hand, give people a chance, and don’t allow other people’s opinions to persuade you otherwise.

- Don’t play it too safe. You’ll never reach your goals, unless you’re willing to take risks, and sometimes lose.

- Tell people how you feel. It is okay to disagree with someone, as this is how new ideas form, and compromises are made. If a relationship is dependent on you hiding your feelings and needs, it is already doomed.

This article was contributed by By Eric J. Leech, author of Love, Lust, and Relationships and dating websites (datingwebsites.org)

Popular culture offers so much bad relationship advice for men that it’s amazing the divorce rate isn’t even higher than it is. Movies, shows, and books on pick-up lines, how to score, etc. are just about the shallowest and most harmful things that invade our brains. Relationships and communication are what truly make the world go around, and without a good understanding of how these things work (or should work) our society falls into a pit of self-serving sexploitations that really, in the big picture and long-term, hurt us more than we know at the time.

So if it’s not about how many honeys you can bring home from the club, what kind of relationship advice for men am I offering? Real advice for real relationships. If you aren’t planning on spending a lot of quality time to get to know that special girl, then leave her alone and let her find someone that will. Looking out for others’ best interest will always serve you better than looking out for “number one.” If you want the best advice ever given on relationships, specifically marriage, then here it is: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her”. This is from Ephesians 5:25 in the Bible, and it gives us the best relationship advice for men ever written.

If you don’t already know, Jesus Christ died on the cross for you and everyone else on this planet. Now I don’t know about you, but when someone says they would die for you, they usually don’t really mean it. If you can say that and really mean it, that is love. In the verse this is what the Apostle Paul is telling us to do to have a good relationship – love your wife in a way that you would be willing to purposely go and die for her. You can’t just say it with your words, you have to mean it in your heart.

If you can truly get to this type of love for someone, you can get through any hard times that come your way and still have a good relationship. There will still be hard times. There always are. If you are looking for perfection, happiness, and rainbows every minute of every day then you need a shrink, because it’s just not going to happen. The best relationship advice for men is to understand that real love is worth dying for, and if it’s less than that, you should be re-evaluating your situation to see what you can do to change yourself. I’ll have some tips for that coming soon.

There are many sources available for marriage help, from counseling practices to pastors, but none of them do any good if they are never visited. Too many couples encounter problems or reach walls in their marriage and decide that it is too hard to work through the pain and much easier to just give up and walk away. While modern movies and television shows portray marriage as simply an agreement or contract that can be started and stopped whenever one of the partners changes their mind, in reality it is much more and requires effective marriage help to be sustained.

Marriage is a commitment, and that is a concept that is slowly drifting away from us in our “be involved, not committed” culture today. A commitment is something that you undertake with a promise to see it through, no matter what. This is why traditional wedding vows include the whole “’til death do us part” wording. According to God, who instituted marriage in the first place by the way, the only thing that should cause it to end is death. Death is a little more serious and final than “I can’t do this anymore.”

So where is the best place to find marriage help that is effective and meaningful? Well, I would suggest to you that since God came up with the idea of marriage, as recorded in the very first book of the Bible, that maybe He might offer some advice through the instruction manual that He has given us. The first thing you should know is that according to the Bible, there’s pretty much no excuse or good reason to get divorced. In Matthew 19:4-6, it says: “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’ And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one separate them, for God has joined them together.”

I will expand on this idea in coming articles and give some passages that will provide practical marriage help ideas to improve your relationship and perhaps save your marriage should you come to a rocky place. Never think that you are past the point of no return. The one who gave us the gift of marriage is always there to help us through the tough times if we ask Him and read what He has to tell us, because He loves us.

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1. Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal.

In the previous chapter, Paul has just concluded instructing the Corinthians that God has given to each a unique spiritual gift. He has just explained that not all gifts are equal, neither are they distributed equally to all, but that each member is given a gift which  can be can used for the edification of the church.

“Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Are all workers of miracles? Do all have gifts of healing? Do all speak with tongues? Do all interpret?” asks Paul.  ”But earnestly desire the best gifts. And yet I show you a more excellent way.” (1 Corinthians 12:29-31). In verse 1 of the Love Chapter, Paul says, in essence, that though he possesses the most excellent of gifts, so that he can speak with the “tongues of men and of angels”–yet if he has not love, then he is nothing more than “sounding brass” or a “clanging cymbal”. All of his excellency of speech and skill in language, which may be worthy of the ears of celestial beings, is nothing more than the clashing of base metals that have no ability to communicate anything of true value. It is love that binds the gift of language into speech worthy of its listeners.

2. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.

Paul esteems the spiritual gift of prophecy most highly among the spiritual gifts. We know this explicitly in the following chapter of Corinthians, in which the apostle exhorts the church to “desire gifts” but especially the gift of prophecy (1 Corinthians 14:1). He stresses that the purpose of the prophetic calling is for the edification, exhortation, and comfort of humanity (1 Corinthians 14:2).

Yet, in the Love Chapter, Paul ordains that although he has the gift of prophecy and “understanding of all mysteries” and “all knowledge”, and though he has the kind of faith of which Jesus spoke–the type which is so abounds that it can move mountains, yet if he has not love, then, Paul says, “I am nothing”.

3. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.

Jesus clearly had a heart for the poor.  Mercy and compassion are at the core of Jesus’ commandments.  Yet there was something else Jesus once said:  “For you have the poor with you always, but Me you do not have always” (Matthew 26:11).  It was at this point in Jesus’ life that a woefully sinful woman had poured an expensive alabaster flask of “very costly fragrant oil” on His head.  And when the disciples saw what she had done, they became indignant because, to them, it seemed like a waste of costly goods.  Yet Jesus saw this as an act of inexhaustible love; for she, in fact, had anointed Him for His death.

Jesus, first and foremost, is concerned with the condition of the heart, above and beyond the condition of the body.  Though He cares for our needs, as a good father for his beloved children, it is the soul of man that most concerns Him.  Therefore Paul says, “And though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.”

 4. Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

The King James and New King James render this text beautifully:  “Love suffers long, and is kind.”  Love is willing to suffer on behalf of the one loved.  The NIV renders this:  “love is patient, love is kind” and aptly summarizes the longsuffering that must often be endured if one is to love at all.  “Love does not envy, love does not parade itself, is not puffed up”. These are all hideous traits unworthy of the profession of God’s love.  There is no room for ambitious pride, or mean jealousy, or crude boasting in the realm of God’s Kingdom.

5. does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;

Love checks its behavior; it is not only after it’s own selfish gain.  It is not easily angered or provoked unnecessarily.  Love is, by all means, temperate.

6. does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;

How can love love that which is evil?  It can not cohort with reckless wickedness.  Love must, at all times, revel in the truth of God’s Word.

 7. bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love is all-encompassing.  There is no weight which it cannot endure, no trial which it cannot upbraid.  It is full of faith.  It is ever hopeful.  It is always in a state of perseverance, even until the end.  Love is all in all.

8. Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.

Love cannot be drowned or placed under the dominion of men or of angels.  And Paul returns to his original thesis:  where the tongue brings forth speech, it will be stilled, “where there is knowledge it will pass away”.  All earthly matter will vanish–and even that which we think we know will fail.  Yet love, never fails.  It never ceases.  It never vanishes away.

9. For we know in part and we prophesy in part.

This is where we are forewarned to remain humble of the great gifts bestowed upon us by the Almighty Creator.  We are reminded that even those of us who have the most excellent gifts only understand a dose of the Truth; that it is God alone through His Son, Jesus Christ, that holds the key to the unfathomable mysteries of the universe.  “For we know in part and we prophesy in part”.

10. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.

And we are gently instructed, even amidst divine words of love, that the end is always near.  That one day, the Lord Jesus Christ shall descend from His glorious throne on high and culminate the End of the Ages. The imperfect shall be driven away by fire and vanquished for all eternity.  When the Perfect shall come, there will be no need of such spiritual gifts as prophesy or tongues or of inspired knowledge, for we will exist in a state of perfection unobstructed by the limitations of our present condition.

11. When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

This present state is a state of childhood and the Kingdom of God is the state of manhood.  While we lived as children on the Earth, we prophesied and reasoned about the mysteries of the Kingdom of Heaven.  But when we become men–that is, enter into our future position with Christ–we will put away the childish things of the present for which we now so dearly strive.

12. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.

One of my favorite analogies of our present earthly state in light of the eternal one to come, is that now it is as though everything in our view is on par with looking through a “glass darkly”.

Matthew Henry, English Bible commentator and minister wrote, in the 1700s: “All things are dark and confused now, in comparison of what will be hereafter . . . now we can only discern things at a great distance, as through a telescope, and that involved in clouds and obscurity; but hereafter the things to be known will be near and obvious, open to our eyes; and our knowledge will be free from all obscurity and error.”

We will, one day, see Him face to face, and look upon His eyes as a flame of fire, burning not with judgement, but with love, for those who are called by His name.  “Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is” (1 John 3:2).

13. And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

The word which Paul used to describe this great love was not a romantic or an amorous one, but a love which exceeds all versions thereof.  The word that he used in the Greek was agape–a word that has become synonymous with sacrificial, selfless, Christian love.  “Faith, hope, love,” these three, are Paul’s greatest assets.  Yet, of these three only love shall remain, when all else has marked its path bravely along the trail of life and ceased at the onset of Eternity.

You never need an excuse to treat a loved one with a romantic gift. They are welcomed all
year round and it’s not just reserved for weddings, birthdays or Valentine’s dinners. If you are thinking about spoiling someone with the perfect gift, we might just have the answer you are looking for. Have a look at these romantic gift ideas for her:

Sterling Silver

These items are always popular and perfect for any occasion. You can personalize the jewelry item with an inscription, or simply choose a magnificent piece that will last for years to come. Consider the Sterling Silver “Love” Ring with its beautifully hammered texture on the outside and “I Love You” on the inside. It’s a definite winner and come in a variety of sizes.

Photo Book

Surprise her with a personalized photo book. You can capture all your favorite, funny and romantic moments in wonderfully styled photo book and you can even create your own cover to perfect it. Photos are meant to last forever and with a personalized photo book they definitely will. This is one of the best and most romantic gift ideas for her.

Red Roses

An old favorite that never gets outdated. Brighten up her day with a gorgeous bouquet of red roses and customize it with your own personal message. Whether you have them delivered at home or at the office, they will definitely make an impression. You can even go one step further and choose from other materials such as leather or porcelain.

Custom Canvas

This picture can definitely say more than a thousand words. With a custom canvas made from your most romantic moment, you will definitely capture her attention and remind her how much she means to you. Canvas prints are a very romantic idea and completely customizable too.

With all these romantic gift ideas for her you are sure to make a lasting impression and show her just how much you care. With personalized items and wonderful jewelry pieces, you will definitely find something that appeals to the one you love.

Here are 5 famous romantic love poems that are sure to saturate the heart with thoughts of love and longing; of course, we’ll be sure to end with the words of the master muse himself: William Shakespeare. But before we do, here are our top picks from Elizabeth Barrett Browning, Lord Byron, Matthew Arnold, Emily Dickinson, and Percy Bysshe Shelley–

How do I love Thee? Let Me Count the Ways
Elizabeth Barrett Browning

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints,—I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life!—and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

When We Two Parted
Lord Byron

When we two parted
In silence and tears,
Half broken-hearted,
To sever for years,
Pale grew thy cheek and cold,
Colder thy kiss;
Truly that hour foretold
Sorrow to this.

The dew of the morning
Sank chill on my brow—
It felt like the warning
Of what I feel now.
Thy vows are all broken,
And light is thy fame:
I hear thy name spoken,
And share in its shame.

They name thee before me,
A knell to mine ear;
A shudder comes o’er me—
Why wert thou so dear?
They know not I knew thee,
Who knew thee too well:—
Long, long shall I rue thee
Too deeply to tell.

In secret we met—
In silence I grieve
That thy heart could forget,
Thy spirit deceive.
If I should meet thee
After long years,
How should I greet thee?—
With silence and tears.

Longing
Matthew Arnold 

Come to me in my dreams, and then
By day I shall be well again!
For so the night will more than pay
The hopeless longing of the day.

Come, as thou cam’st a thousand times,
A messenger from radiant climes,
And smile on thy new world, and be
As kind to others as to me!

Or, as thou never cam’st in sooth,
Come now, and let me dream it truth,
And part my hair, and kiss my brow,
And say, My love why sufferest thou?

Come to me in my dreams, and then
By day I shall be well again!
For so the night will more than pay
The hopeless longing of the day.

I Held a Jewel in My Fingers
Emily Dickinson

I held a Jewel in my fingers –
And went to sleep –
The day was warm, and winds were prosy –
I said “‘Twill keep” –

I woke — and chid my honest fingers,
The Gem was gone –
And now, an Amethyst remembrance
Is all I own –

The Indian Serenade
Percy Bysshe Shelley 

I arise from dreams of thee
In the first sweet sleep of night,
When the winds are breathing low,
And the stars are shining bright.
I arise from dreams of thee,
And a spirit in my feet
Has led me -who knows how?
To thy chamber-window, Sweet!

The wandering airs they faint
On the dark, the silent stream -
The champak odours fail
Like sweet thoughts in a dream;
The nightingale’s complaint,
It dies upon her heart,
As I must die on thine,
O beloved as thou art!

Oh lift me from the grass!
I die! I faint! I fail!
Let thy love in kisses rain
On my lips and eyelids pale.
My cheek is cold and white, alas!
My heart beats loud and fast;
Oh press it close to thine again,
Where it will break at last!

My Mistress’ Eyes are Nothing Like the Sun
William Shakespeare

My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun;
Coral is far more red than her lips’ red;
If snow be white, why then her breasts are dun;
If hairs be wires, black wires grow on her head.
I have seen roses damasked, red and white,
But no such roses see I in her cheeks,
And in some perfumes is there more delight
Than in the breath that from my mistress reeks.
I love to hear her speak, yet well I know,
That music hath a far more pleasing sound.
I grant I never saw a goddess go;
My mistress when she walks treads on the ground.
And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare
As any she belied with false compare.

>> Which is your favorite romantic love poem? Did Shakespeare take the prize again?

1. Try New Cuisine: The main idea of a first date is to encourage conversation; and although the usual “dinner and a movie” have been tried and tested, spice it up a bit by trying out new cuisine together. You will share a new experience and definitely have a lot to talk about.
2. Ice Skating: It’s a fun and exciting way to get to know each other and it might just offer a few laughs as well. If you don’t know how to skate – no worries! More reason to hold hands and enjoy the challenge. It’s also a perfect idea for people who like to be active.
3. Attend a Local Music Show: You don’t necessarily have to go to a stadium show, something smaller will do too. Don’t go for something too loud though; remember that conversation is important for a first date to be successful.
4. Hiking: It’s a great outdoors activity and will make for a perfect first date. It’s probably just a good idea to check with your date to make sure he or she is up to the task! It will make for a wonderful day of sight-seeing and enjoying the outdoors.
5.  Volunteer at a Soup Kitchen: Although not your average first date, volunteering is a great idea and will not only allow you to get to know each other but also to do something worthwhile together. You will feel great afterwards and there’s a good chance that your date will too.
6. Go Shopping: Gift shopping is a great way to spend your time and why not take your date with you? You can share ideas, suggest gifts to buy and go for a bite afterwards. Retail therapy has never been this great.
7. Go Boating: Another wonderful idea to enjoy the outdoors. You can take up canoeing, row boating or just paddle out on a sunny afternoon. You don’ have to go big; just enjoy! This is definitely one of the more romantic and fun first date ideas.
8. Visit a Museum: Go to your favorite museum and enjoy a day with your date. You can even visit more than one if your city has more to offer.
9.  Plan a Picnic: Choose a nice spot and swing by a restaurant or grocery store on your way. Grab some quick treats and enjoy a quiet afternoon with your date. High on the list of fun first date ideas!
10.  Watch an Outdoor Movie: Put a spin on the normal theatre dates and go for an outdoor movie or a drive-in theatre. It’s a romantic idea and your date will love it. Find out what movies are showing and choose one that both of you will enjoy.

Planning a first date should be exciting and not stressful; and with these top tips on fun first date ideas you won’t have any excuse at all. There is something for everyone and you are sure to find something that both of you will enjoy. Now get planning and enjoy your first date!

Well, we could be talking about ways to get your boyfriend back, as in, “He really hurt me! Now I’m going to get him back!” But I don’t think this is why you came to this blog post. Being the optimist that I am, I’m going to assume that you mean, “We broke up, and now I’m trying to find ‘ways to get my boyfriend back’”.

With that being said, let’s get to the heart of the matter–

Communication – The #1 relationship killer (other than infidelity) is lack of communication. He broke up with you or vice-versa, and now there is a lot of hurt and pride going around and the door to communication has closed. If in your heart of hearts, you think there is any chance of getting back together, you have to take the step–no matter who was right and who was wrong–to pick up the phone or better yet, go to the person, and simply talk.

Do Something Sweet

If it really isn’t as bad as all that, and you think you can salvage it, do something sweet for him. For example? Send him something he likes. Tickets to that new ice-hockey game or a sweet love letter. And believe me: guys like flowers too from their sweethearts. It’s the gesture that will make the difference, and that cute, sweet smile on your face when you give it to them!

Get to the Root of the Problem 

Guys are problem-solvers and they don’t rest easy until whatever you are fighting about is resolved. What caused you to break up in the first place? Get to the root of the problem and make any reasonable commitments to get your relationship back on track! Talk with him and see ways in which you can resolve whatever is holding you back from a healthy relationship.

Re-Evaluate Whether It Is Meant to Be 

Sometimes women have a tendency to hang on to something that is just not there: and this isn’t restricted to women only, but people in general who have just come out of a relationship that was meant to end.

Now also may be the time to re-evaluate if you should even be reading, “Ways to Get Your Boyfriend Back” or whether it is time to make preparations to move on. Give real consideration to the fact that it just may not be meant to be, as difficult as that may seem to be right now.

Seek the Advice of Your Family and Friends 

Don’t go at it alone. Enlist trusted members of your family and friends to help you evaluate the situation. You may just be too wrapped up in the situation yourself to see clearly, and a little help from your friends and family is not a bad thing. Talk to your parents, talk to your best friend, get their advice. They may be able to give you not only good advice on ways to get your boyfriend back, but also give you a reliable shoulder to cry on.