Today in the US the divorce rate has surpassed 50%. This is a very sad statistic not only because it hurts those involved, not only because it emphasizes the breakdown of the family unit that we have been witnessing over the last few decades, but also because it is an unnecessary trend that could in many cases be prevented if couples would reach out for marriage help, or knew where to get that help.
There are many sources available for marriage help, from counseling practices to pastors, but none of them do any good if they are never visited. Too many couples encounter problems or reach walls in their marriage and decide that it is too hard to work through the pain and much easier to just give up and walk away. While modern movies and television shows portray marriage as simply an agreement or contract that can be started and stopped whenever one of the partners changes their mind, in reality it is much more and requires effective marriage help to be sustained.
Marriage is a commitment, and that is a concept that is slowly drifting away from us in our “be involved, not committed” culture today. A commitment is something that you undertake with a promise to see it through, no matter what. This is why traditional wedding vows include the whole “’til death do us part” wording. According to God, who instituted marriage in the first place by the way, the only thing that should cause it to end is death. Death is a little more serious and final than “I can’t do this anymore.”
So where is the best place to find marriage help that is effective and meaningful? Well, I would suggest to you that since God came up with the idea of marriage, as recorded in the very first book of the Bible, that maybe He might offer some advice through the instruction manual that He has given us. The first thing you should know is that according to the Bible, there’s pretty much no excuse or good reason to get divorced. In Matthew 19:4-6, it says: “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’ And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one separate them, for God has joined them together.”
I will expand on this idea in coming articles and give some passages that will provide practical marriage help ideas to improve your relationship and perhaps save your marriage should you come to a rocky place. Never think that you are past the point of no return. The one who gave us the gift of marriage is always there to help us through the tough times if we ask Him and read what He has to tell us, because He loves us.