Expressing Your Love | Romance Tracker - Part 2

Love, Dating, Relationships and Romantic Ideas

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For a more romantic relationship, don’t keep score; lead by example!

It’s a given that making an effort to add as much good old-fashioned romantic ideas to your relationship as possible will make your life with your significant other more rewarding, exciting and fulfilling. If you’re interested in building a better relationship with your lover and making their happiness the number one priority in your life, you’d be nuts not to make an effort to add more romantic gestures, acts and thinking to the mix. And if you and your sweetheart are both interested in being as romantic as possible, it might be fun to try to out-do each other when it comes to romance and showing your love.

But if you’ve recently discovered how addicting it is to be romantic with your partner, it’s easy to get upset if your lover isn’t as enthusiastic about old-fashioned romance as you are right away. You’re excited about adding a bunch of new romantic ideas to your daily lives and making your relationship or marriage more fulfilling, so why can’t they be? Sure, it’s understandable that you’d want your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband to do as many romantic things as you’re doing, but keeping score on who’s being the most romantic in a relationships is the wrong approach.

Being romantic is not something that someone can be forced to do in a relationship . . . in fact, if someone is being romantic only because they have to, that’s the complete opposite of old-fashioned romance! If you’re a true romantic, whether or not your partner is as romantic as you shouldn’t make a difference in how satisfying it is to you. The true romantic doesn’t treat their partner romantically to impress anyone or to get them to give you anything back . . . the true romantic acts romantically simply to make their partner happy!

If making your sweetheart happy isn’t reward enough for you, you may need to reassess why you want to add romance to your relationship, after all. If it’s to change who your partner is or to get something back from them, you’re probably concentrating on old-fashioned romance for the wrong reasons. If you make a romantic gesture and your lover enjoys it, let their smile and happiness be your compensation. Don’t ever start keeping track of how many times your partner is romantic with you or compare who is the most romantic!

If your lover is not as romantic as you are and if you would like to change that, it’s better to lead by example than to try to make them feel bad about it. Add some small, modest romantic acts to your daily routine, but don’t overdo it or make them feel overwhelmed. Making positive changes in a long-term relationship can take some time, and sometimes patience is the best quality to have when trying to make your partner more romantic.

Remember, part of being an old-fashioned romantic is to love your partner for who they are, not demand that they change, and to be patient as you grow together. Never keep score on who is more romantic in your relationship or make your partner feel guilty about not being romantic enough. Lead by example, introduce romance into your life slowly, and you may be surprised to find your lover beginning to become an old-fashioned romantic without even realizing it!

Is hugging that special someone your first priority when you come home?

The world is getting busier and faster-paced every day, and adding old-fashioned romantic ideas to your relationship or marriage can be difficult if you have a hectic career or other responsibilities to worry about. On the one hand, part of being an old-fashioned romantic involves working hard to provide for and take care of your family.

But you need to balance that responsibility with paying enough attention to your lover to let them know how important they are to you. Your sweetheart may understand that work or other responsibilities keep you away from home longer than you would like, but do you make sure that they know how much you missed them when you were gone?

Whether it was a week-long business trip or a day at work, you should make sure that giving your wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend a big kiss and hug is the first thing you do when you get home. Don’t let the distractions that took you away from the most important thing in your life continue when you return home again.

It’s never a bad idea to bring home a romantic surprise for your lover at the end of a work day or trip. Just keep in mind that the greatest gift you could give your special someone is the simplest and most inexpensive one: a hug!

You’re the luckiest person in the world to have that special someone!

Check it out: there are about four billion guys in the world, but I know without a doubt that I’m the luckiest out of all of them. How can I be so sure? Easy: because I have a special person in my life who makes me feel like the luckiest person in the world. And even if I won a million dollars or dodged a hail of bullets, I know I’ll never be more fortunate than I was the day I met her.

But just because I’m the luckiest person in the world doesn’t mean you can’t be, too. How is that possible? Easy: because being loved by that special someone makes you the luckiest person in the world . . . no matter how many other people already hold the title!

Sure, you know how much you’re in love with your wife, girlfriend, husband or boyfriend and how wonderful they make you feel every day. But have you ever stopped and thought about how incredibly lucky you are to have them in your life, and to have your relationship or marriage? Do you really realize what amazing luck you had the day that you met that person?

Here’s a romantic idea for you: the next time you’re with the love of your life, think for a moment about how close you came to never meeting them at all. Think of all the endless occurences that had to take place to bring you together, and how you would never have found them if even one tiny thing had been different.

It’s true: if you’re in love, and if that person loves you back, you really are the luckiest person in the world . . . because nothing else you’ll ever experience could make you luckier!

But does your lover know how lucky you feel to have them in your life? If it’s been a while since you let them know that you consider yourself the luckiest person in the world, it might be time to remind them.

And guess what? Letting that special someone know how lucky you feel to have them in your life will probably make them feel pretty darn lucky, too. Sure, you may be the luckiest person in the world . . . but how great would it be if your special someone could be the luckiest person in the world, too?

The ultimate guide to buying romantic flowers for your lover

Are there any romantic ideas quite like a gift of flowers to brighten your day, bring a smile to your face, and make you feel really special? Whether you’re a man or a woman , giving a flower or a bouquet to your sweetheart is one of the best, most inexpensive ways possible to add a little spontaneous, old-fashioned romance to your relationship or marriage.

Flowers are one of the few romantic gifts that require such little thought and yet still go a long way to making your wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend feel amazing. Flowers are easy to obtain, inexpensive to buy, beautiful to look at, smell wonderful and can serve as a fresh reminder of your love for days. And with so many different options to choose from when it comes to individual flowers or creative bouquets and arrangements, you could get your lover flowers every week and make them seem new and unique every time.

If you’re a person who only buys your lover flowers on special occasions like anniversaries or birthdays, my question is this: why? Sure, an ornate bouquet may be a little too expensive to buy more than a few times a year for most people, but a single flower once a week can fit into anyone’s budget. There are few other gifts that you can spend only a couple bucks on and get such great returns from when it comes to making your lover feel more romantic and appreciated.

Roses are beautiful and might be the perfect compliment for your relationship’s style, but there are dozens of other types of flowers available at your neighborhood florist that can bring a smile to your lover’s face. Stopping by the flower shop after work or on your way home from a business trip only takes a moment, and with little more than the change in your glove box you can bring home a wonderful surprise to go along with that big hug.

And remember: flowers weren’t made just for men to give to women! A lot of boyfriends or husbands may feel a little awkward receiving a flower from their girlfriends and wives, but there’s no reason to. Flowers can be presented in a way that’s a little less feminine for men (you know, get rid of the pink bows and stuff! :) ), and women shouldn’t shy from occasionally buying their lovers a gift of flowers to show how much they care.

So if you’re only giving flowers on anniversaries and at funerals, you’re really missing out on a chance make your relationship more exciting, romantic and special. Start making it a tradition to bring a single flower to your lover once a week for no reason at all, and you’ll be amazed at how much magic you’ll add to your life.

But what kind of flowers are best to introduce into your particular type of relationship? Are some flowers better than others for different people and circumstances? You’re the only one who can make that decision, but classically, different flowers do carry different meanings. Below is a list of some popular romantic flowers and their meanings. But remember: when it comes to flowers, it really is the thought that counts!

Top Ten Romantic Flowers and What They Mean

10. Iris: Faith and Hope

9. Sunflower: Loyalty

8. Wildflower: Adoration

7. Lilac: “Do you still love me?”

6. Carnation: Fascination

5. Orchid: Refinement and Seduction

4. Lily: Beauty

3. Tulip: Perfect Love

2. Daisy: Innocence, Purity, Loyalty

1. Rose: “I Love You”

Why do you need a reason to send a fun, romantic greeting card?

We’ve all bought greeting cards for people on special occasions; birthdays, holidays, anniversaries . . . even get-well cards for friends and family members who are under the weather. But when’s the last time you sent a fun, romantic card through the mail to your husband, wife, girlfriend or boyfriend other for absolutely no reason at all? If you’re only browsing the greeting cards at the supermarket when those special occasions are coming up, you’re missing out on some great romantic ideas for your relationship or marriage.

A lot of romantic people shy away from greeting cards for romantic occasions because they look at them as too commercial or unoriginal. Sure, handing your lover a Hallmark with nothing but your signature inside on your anniversary or after the birth of your child might come across as a bit uninspired. But those sappy, mass-produced greeting cards are the perfect way to send a nice, romantic surprise to your lover when they are least expecting it.

For a couple of bucks and a stamp, you can send a fun, romantic little message to your sweetheart that is sure to put a smile on their face, brighten their day and remind them how much they mean to you. Go all out if you want and add your own special touches, but even scribbling “thinking of you” or “I love you” inside is guaranteed to make your lover feel like a million bucks!

There’s nothing wrong with setting the romantic card somewhere for your significant other to find on their own, but why not seal it up, slap on a stamp and toss it in the mail? It will be even more of a surprise when your lover opens the mailbox and finds and unexpected envelope with a special romantic message inside. And if you really want to give them a surprise, why not send it to them at their work address? Talk about a great way to make a person feel good about themselves!

Occasionally sending your romantic partner a fun card in the mail is another wonderful way to add a little old-fashioned romance to your relationship and brighten up your lover’s day in the process. It’s cheap, quick, easy to do, but makes a big difference. So the next time you make a quick trip to the grocery store, make sure a greeting card is on your shopping list!

Top 10 reasons why you should fall in love

There’s no doubt about it: falling in love is the most amazing, exciting, terrific, wonderful, outstanding . . . well, okay, you get the picture already. Falling in love is pretty doggone great. And if you’re wondering, there are tons of reasons to fall in love, too. Of course, if you’re looking for a reason to fall in love, my first question is this: why the heck do you need one, knucklehead?

Ah, but there are plenty of neigh-sayers out there who think that romantic ideas and falling in love is overrated. Romance is for fools, they say . . . and Cupid is never gonna catch me! They love their freedom, they cherish their independence, and they fawn over their self-reliance. So if you’re already in love, there’s no need to keep reading; this post is for the skeptics who need a little inspiration.

Need some reasons why falling in love is a smart move? Here’s a list of ten of them for you, but they certainly aren’t the only reasons why you should get involved in a romantic relationship or marriage as soon as possible. And for you romantic veterans who don’t need convincing, why not add a few reasons of your own in the comment section of this post? We’d love to hear from you.

And if this post does end up convincing you to give love a try, don’t go rushing out and falling head over heals for someone right away. Take your time, for crying out loud.

Top Ten Reasons Why You Should Fall In Love

1. Falling in love makes you smile all the darn time.

Ever seen the guy who’s always tackling everything life throws at him with optimism and a grin? Well that dude’s probably in love. And before you poke fun at him, you should know that you’re more likely to succeed at everything you do if you can tackle it with a smile on your face. So go ahead, stay away from love and keep frowning. Just get used to always being one step behind of the guy who’s in love and smiling.

2. Falling in love makes you better looking.

No, really, it does. And I’m not just talking about a healthy glow, either. When we’re in love, we’re more likely to take better care of ourselves, as you’ll see in number seven, and take more pride in our appearance. When you have a reason to look good, you do look good.

3. Falling in love makes you love yourself more, too.

Like we’ve said before, being in a romantic, loving relationship has a way of helping you to learn to love yourself, too. Most of us don’t realize that we have so many good qualities, and seeing ourself through the eyes of a person who is crazy about us can be one heck of an exhilarating experience.

4. Falling in love makes you richer.

This isn’t just our opinion. Countless studies have proved that people in long-term, committed romantic relationships go on to earn more than people who stay single. So if you won’t fall in love for your heart’s sake, do it for your wallet.

5. Falling in love makes you see stuff you didn’t notice before.

No, I don’t mean pink elephants or UFO’s. The stuff you notice when you’re in love was always there, you just never thought it was important enough to pay attention to before. When you’re truly in love you are able to take things slower, be more observant, notice more details, and have a greater understanding of things.

6. Falling in love makes you a nicer person.

This one is a no-brainer. It’s tough to be mean to everyone when there’s a wonderful person in your life who’s making every day special and exciting. I mean, it’s no cure-all if you’re a complete jerk, but it can at least take the edge off a little.

7. Falling in love makes you take better care of yourself.

Like I said in number two, falling in love makes you look better because it gets you in better shape. Being in love with someone is a great way to get motivated to become a healthier person, lose weight, and take better overall care of yourself. It won’t make you into a fitness guru or anything, but it’s easier to go for a jog when you know there’s a special person in your life.

8. Falling in love gives you something to dedicate yourself to.

It’s a little-known fact that having something to dedicate yourself to makes you more successful at everything you try to do. That something can be a concept or an idea, but it’s much better and more satisfying if it’s a person. And making the person you love proud of you is one heck of a great feeling.

9. Falling in love makes you grow up . . . in a good way.

Being more grown-up isn’t always a good thing . . . in fact, there are plenty of childlike qualities that go a long way to help a romantic relationship and make it more fun and exciting. But being in love will also make you more responsible, more mature, and more careful. And if you can master those qualities while still letting yourself have fun, you’ll have one heck of a great relationship.

10. Falling in love makes you live longer.

Don’t take our word for it. It’s, like, totally common knowledge that people who are in long-term, loving relationships simply live longer than people who aren’t. Want to live to see your 100th birthday? Then you better start looking for that special someone to celebrate it with.

By the way, this post was inspired by I Help You Blog’s “101 Great Posting Ideas For Your Blog” to make a post that is inspirational. Go check them out if you get a chance!

Shouting from the rooftops: if you’re really in love, brag about it!

Getting compliments from other people firsthand is great, but having someone tell you that they heard good things about your from another person is the kind of unexpected, genuine praise that many of us remember for years. After all, we’re used to insincerity when people are talking to our faces . . . but if you find out that someone said something good about you behind your back, or defended you when you weren’t there, you know without a doubt that you have a real friend.

Believe it or not, the same principle applies to romantic relationships and being in love. Letting your significant other know you love them when you are with them is great, but it can mean even more when other people tell them about how excited and proud of your romantic relationship or marriage you really are.

I’m not quite encouraging you to go for the old cliche about shouting from the rooftops to tell the whole world about how in love your are (although a lot of people might consider that pretty darned romantic!). There’s no reason to go overboard and stop every person you pass on the street to tell them about your wife, girlfriend, boyfriend or husband. But if you’re truly in love, and if your romantic relationship is bringing happiness and excitement to your life, what’s wrong with romantic ideas like bragging about it a little bit to your friends and family?

On the flip side, one of the best ways to make your romantic partner feel totally unappreciated is to let them find out that your friends, family and coworkers know absolutely nothing about them. This lets your lover know that your relationship isn’t something you want anyone else to know about, and makes them feel that you want to hide it from the world. Even worse, if you don’t make any effort to introduce your sweetheart to any of the other people in your life, they may start to think that you’re embarrassed of your relationship and are trying to hide it from the world.

There are plenty of things about your romantic relationship that are nobody else’s business, and you should never give anyone too much information about your private life, no matter how giddy you are about it. But if you’re really in love, bragging about your significant other a little bit to your friends, family and coworkers can make them happy for you . . . and help them understand how much the new person in your life means to you.

So if you’re really in love and you haven’t yet made a point to tell the people around you about it, don’t be ashamed! Being in love with a wonderful person is something you should be proud of and want to tell as many people as possible about. And if you find that you’re too embarrassed to let your friends and family know about it, then you might need to ask yourself if what you’re feeling is really love at all.

Well, what are you waiting for? Go find a rooftop and start shouting!

Why romantic emails are a great way to say “I love you”

One recurring theme here on Romance Tracker is using modern technology to add old-fashioned romance to your relationship. In spite of all that the modern world has done to make human relationships more impersonal, there are still many great romantic ideas for using technology to add more spontaneity, fun and excitement to yours.

True romance is really about taking things slowly and paying close attention to even the small details, and the Internet and email are about doing things as quickly and simply as possible . . . but used correctly, they can help nurture and build your relationship. After all, you’ve used the internet to find this post about making your relationship or marriage more romantic, haven’t you?

Much like sending romantic text messages, a spontaneous romantic email is a simple and effective way to tell your wife, girlfriend, husband or boyfriend you are thinking about them at any time of the day. Many of us have gotten sick and tired of seeing our inboxes full of forwarded emails and unoriginal jokes, but an original, romantic email isn’t spam at all. And it doesn’t take much time or effort; something as simple as “I’m busy with work right now, but I’m missing you!” can make your sweetheart smile for the rest of the day!

If you want to get a bit more romantic, why not do some research and send your significant other a single line from a romantic poem every day? Or maybe a beautiful, romantic image you’ve found on the web with a note telling your lover how it reminded you of them?

E-cards are another great way to send lighthearted or serious romantic messages to your sweetheart over the Internet. There are plenty of on-line companies that let you send an ecard for free (just Google “e-cards”), and you can usually personalize them with your own special message. E-cards are a quick, fun way for your to tell your lover you’re thinking about them, and they’re guaranteed to put anyone who gets one into a great mood!

So what are you waiting for? You’re on the Internet right now, so nothing’s stopping you from sending your lover a quick romantic email. Promise yourself to use the Internet to tell that special someone you’re thinking about them at least once a week, and I guarantee your relationship will be better for it!

The difference between being romantic and being “clingy”

Are you so afraid of coming across as “clingy” with your significant other that you’re missing out on some great romantic ideas to add a new dimension to your relationship or marriage? One of the reasons why old-fashioned romance is harder to find in today’s modern relationships is a common misconception among both men and women that paying attention to your lover, holding them and showing your appreciation is being too “clingy” or “sappy.” Sure, it’s possible to pay so much attention to your lover that it becomes overpowering and annoying, but that shouldn’t stop you from trying to be as romantic as possible in your relationship.

Today’s society tends to stress independence and self-reliance, which is one reason why “clinginess” and “public displays of affection” have become so taboo. Getting too sappy while you’re in a public place is something you should avoid, but staying clear of all affection while you’re out together is just plain silly. The truly happy couple isn’t embarrassed to show the word that they are in love in a tasteful and romantic way. Holding hands, kissing your lover on the cheek and doing small, special things for each other are as appropriate in public as they are in the home.

Unfortunately, the cliche of the clingy, ditsy date girl has turned a lot of women off to being physically romantic who might otherwise reap great benefits from paying more attention to their lover. Likewise, many men are so afraid of being looked at as “soft” or “whipped” that they won’t dare hold their lover’s hand, gaze into her eyes lovingly or give her a quick kiss on the cheek while they’re in public.

Whether you’re a man or a woman, getting over your fear of being affectionate and romantic with your girlfriend, wife, husband or boyfriend will help your relationship immensely. There’s no shame in being romantic with your lover, whether at home or in public. If it’s something you’re uncomfortable with, start small and work your way up; you could promise yourself to hold your lover’s hand at least once a day, for example, until it starts to feel more natural.

One of the greatest mistakes you can make in your relationship is to confuse being romantic and being clingy. Showing your affection for your lover, making them your number one priority, and doing special things for them every day is anything but clingy. It’s called good old-fashioned romance, and I promise your relationship will benefit from adding a little bit as soon as possible!

When to say I love you

For the truly romantic person, thinking of romantic ideas for saying “I love you” in fresh and unique ways is never a problem; there are a million different ways to show your lover how you feel about them, and every day offers new opportunities to inject romance into your life. But exactly when to say I love you, and deciding which moment is the best to express your feelings to your lover, can be a bit more difficult to decide on. Is there really a perfect time to say “I love you,” and if so, when is it?

If there is such a thing as the perfect time of day to let your girlfriend, wife, boyfriend or husband know how you feel, it’s probably different for every romantic relationship or marriage. Romance is a very personal experience, and each loving relationship is as unique as an individual set of fingerprints or a single snowflake. The exact experiences, memories, feelings and circumstances present in your relationship can’t be found in any other. So while saying “I love you” as you come home from work might be best in one relationship, saying it as you lay down to bed might be best in another.

But regardless of when you feel the most comfortable saying “I love you,” you should never, ever stop saying it at other times. Love is a renewable resource, and you’ll never run out of “I love you’s” if you say them too much. Who cares if you already told your sweetheart you loved them that morning? That shouldn’t stop you from telling them again that afternoon and that evening.

Don’t limit yourself to expressing your loving feelings only a certain amount of times during a day; instead, tell your lover how you feel whenever the fancy strikes you. Sure, if you started saying “I love you” three thousand times a day, that might cause a strain on even the strongest relationship. But if you have a healthy, open relationship, expressing your love three times or even ten times a day should only strengthen it.

Here’s one bit of advice to add some variety to your relationship, though: try saying “I love you” at times when it’s unexpected, rather than when you’ve always said it in the past. If your partner is only used to hearing you express your love when you leave for work in the morning, call to tell them again when you get to work. If they’re used to hearing “I love you” as you lay down for bed at night, tell them how you feel as soon as you open your eyes in the morning.

Is there a perfect time to say “I love you?” The answer is yes, but the only person who can decide when that is for your relationship is you. But by promising yourself not to limit yourself in how often you express your feelings, and by doing it at unexpected moments, you can that each “I love you” will be as close to perfect as possible!